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Power Of Failure - Allowing others to 'fail successfully'

In 1996, I went to REC Surathkal to meet Madhukar Reddy, a classmate/friend of mine in intermediate. We were discussion all the spice of life and in the discussion he stated telling that the professors in his college makes sure that the students fail in atleast one subject by the time they graduate. And here I find an article, Allowing others to 'fail successfully', by Kriengsak Niratpattanasai which explains the reason.

"It was a story of a man who was watching a butterfly struggle to break out of its cocoon. After making some progress to work its way through a small hole, the butterfly appeared to simply stop its efforts. For some time, it seemed to make no headway, so the man concluded it was stuck and decided to lend a helping hand by forming a larger opening in the cocoon with scissors.

"Afterward the butterfly emerged easily but with small, shrivelled wings and a swollen body.

"It turned out that the struggle to emerge from the cocoon would have forced the fluid from the butterfly's body into its wings, a necessary process for enabling it to fly. As a result of a man's well-intentioned 'help', he had interfered with nature's life-strengthening process. The butterfly was now doomed never to fly, but to crawl around with its swollen body and shrivelled wings for the rest of its life.

"Many of our failures in life present us with the same kind of challenge that the butterfly faced. Learning, personal growth, skill development, courage, persistence, the potential to empathy, and a host of other desirable life assets can be gained from failing successfully. We cannot hope to become really successful in our lives unless we learn to fail well in a way that prepares us for greater success. If we get caught in the trap of trying to avoid challenge and backing away from our setbacks, we cannot earn the valuable lessons that we need to learn."